About me
I believe that therapy or coaching doesn’t have to be a painful, humourless, and never-ending affair.
Nor do we need to endlessly dig in your childhood to make changes today – although I admit that it can sometimes be quite useful.
By the way, I also don’t believe in star signs or numerology, nor do I think that we’re all somehow ill, depressed, burnt out,
or narcissistic.
However, I do believe that life is just damn complicated, and it can get often better with a bit of support.
I’m not an expert on your life, even though I’ve undergone extensive training and have worked as a therapist and lecturer for nearly 30 years. I will certainly not decide what is right for you. My job is to support you as effectively as possible and ideally provide you with some tools to make your life easier.
Or to help you through the next crisis (because there’s always one coming, right?).
In my understanding of therapy and coaching, there’s (with few exceptions) no right or wrong, more a case of ‘this works’ or ‘this doesn’t work’. From my experience, I know that most people (really!) worry about whether they are ‘normal’, but I think (surprise!) that we’re all different, and that doesn’t make any of us better or worse, right or wrong.
Sometimes we’re in the wrong place, sometimes we need a different perspective, sometimes the circumstances are unbearable, and actually, we’re quite alright, and sometimes we are just surrounded by idiots.
If you’re interested in clinical aspects: I work from a systemic, solution-focused perspective, drawing on cognitive behavioural therapy and integrative gestalt therapy. And sometimes on gut feeling and intuition, which works quite well after almost 30 years. Not for everyone, but for many.
I work with people who, for example:
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would like to have more self-esteem and want to voice their opinions,
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are tired of always trying to please and help everyone,
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often wonder why they go to work, why their relationships can’t be different, and what the point of life is,
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want to do everything perfectly,
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struggle to balance work and private life,
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want to make decisions but don’t know how,
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have just broken up or want to break up and can’t imagine life ‘afterwards’,
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feel lonely and want to change that.
And I work with couples who, for example:
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are bored with each other,
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never do anything together,
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have different ideas about a lot: how often to have sex, how many partners, what to do, what to spend money on, where to celebrate Christmas, kids or no kids – and if so, how to deal with them.
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shout at each other like no one else.